The work starts with you, not your dating life
HOLISTIC INTIMACY COACH FOR SINGLES
Gentle healing for the whole self
WANTED. CONSENSUAL. HEALING.
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You're not bad at dating
You're not broken and you're not doing intimacy wrong. Most of us were never actually taught how to feel safe being close to anyone, including ourselves. Dating apps won't teach you that. Neither will another list of tips for better conversation starters.
This work starts somewhere else. It starts with your own body, your own nervous system, and whether either one knows how to relax around closeness yet. Once that groundwork is there, everything else, dating included, gets a lot easier.
IS THIS YOU
This might be for you if
You've done years of work, and still find closeness costly
You prefer structure, consent, and clear agreements
Your body tenses up around intimacy even when your mind wants it
You give more than you receive, or you go quiet right when things start to feel real
You want to test whether touch can feel safe, on your terms
You want a relationship with yourself you can trust before you worry about anyone else's
This isn't dating coaching. It's slower and more foundational than that. If you're ready to start there, you're in the right place.
HOW IT WORKS
Healing happens in relationship
Most people come to me not thinking about safety. They're thinking, why does this keep happening. Why do I go quiet, or leave, or find a reason it's wrong, right when things start to feel real.
Here's what I've learned after a decade of this work: you can't think your way into feeling safe with someone. You have to actually be in relationship, a safe one, and let your body find out for itself. That's what we do together. Not talk about closeness. Practice it.
Safety
Closeness
Everything else
Sessions are non-sexual, consent-based, and paced by your nervous system, not a schedule. We build your capacity for closeness slowly, in ways your system can actually tolerate rather than override.
I also work in what's called a triadic model, meaning if you're already working with a therapist, I collaborate with them rather than working around them. This isn't a replacement for therapy. It's a different kind of work that happens alongside it, focused on the body and relational experience rather than talk alone.
You don't need to have your dating life figured out to start. You just need to be curious about what this could feel like.
IN PRACTICE
What this can look like
"I came in thinking I just needed better boundaries. Turns out I didn't trust my own body enough to know where my boundaries even were."
One client came to me after years of dating that left her feeling more disconnected, not less. She could talk about what she wanted in a relationship fluently, but the moment someone got close, she'd go quiet, or leave early, or find a reason it wasn't right. She assumed she was just bad at picking people.
What we found instead was that her body had never learned what safety actually felt like at rest. So that's where we started. Not with dating strategy, not with communication scripts, just with noticing what her own nervous system was doing in the presence of closeness, and slowly building her capacity to stay present in it.
Months in, she wasn't "better at dating." She was someone who could tell the difference between danger and discomfort, and that changed everything about how she showed up, not just on dates, but with herself.
“I honestly cannot put into words the feelings I have when you help me just be me.”
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NEXT STEP
See if this feels right
You don't need to have this figured out before you reach out. A connection call isn't a sales pitch, it's a chance to talk, ask questions, and get a feel for whether there's an ease between us. No pressure either way.
A quick heads up, these calls tend to feel more like a real conversation than an interview. I might mention my own life along the way. That's part of how I work, not a distraction from it.
FOR CLINICIANS AND COLLEAGUES
Are you a clinician, coach, or another touch professional?
Information for referrals, collaboration examples, and resources for working alongside me in the triadic model.