Is It Normal to Crave Connection but Feel Scared of Intimacy? (San Diego Intimacy Coach Answers)

If you’re in San Diego and find yourself longing for deeper connection but feeling anxious or hesitant about intimacy, you’re absolutely not alone. Many people, especially those healing from trauma, grief, or challenging relationships, experience both a desire for closeness and a fear of letting others in.

As a trauma-informed intimacy coach based in San Diego, I work with adults who crave meaningful connection but also carry understandable caution. These feelings often arise after difficult experiences where boundaries weren’t honored, or trust was broken. It’s common for survivors of sexual trauma, attachment wounds, or emotional neglect to want connection while feeling uncertain about intimacy.

Here’s what I want you to know:

• Craving connection is completely normal. It’s a fundamental human need, even if it feels complicated.

• Feeling scared or hesitant is also normal. Your nervous system is working to protect you based on your past experiences.

• You can move at your own pace. Healing and connection are possible with support that respects your boundaries and comfort level.

At Human Connection Lab, I offer therapeutic intimacy coaching and cuddle therapy in San Diego, always with a trauma-informed, consent-based approach. My work is collaborative, often including your therapist if you have one, and accessible through a self-determining rate structure.

If you’re searching for a San Diego intimacy coach who understands both your longing for connection and your fears, you’re in the right place. You deserve support that meets you exactly where you are.

Ready to take a gentle step toward connection?Visit Human Connection Lab to learn more or schedule a free consultation in San Diego.